Ways to Boost Your Confidence

The problem with these phrases is that they assume people can simply build up courage on their own to achieve their goals. It makes us think that if we just put in the effort and try hard enough, we can become confident.

The problem with these phrases is that they assume people can simply build up courage on their own to achieve their goals. It makes us think that if we just put in the effort and try hard enough, we can become confident.

A lot of the times, we can’t.

Conventional wisdom states that we need to believe first, then act. For example, if we recognize our self-worth, then we can go talk to that person. If we recognize all the great ideas swimming around in our heads, then we can speak up in meetings, and so on.

Unfortunately, it’s easy to get stuck on that first step. We spend so long trying to believe in ourselves that we never feel quite ready to get to the next stage of acting on our thoughts.

But what if I told you that the steps take place in a different order?

According to the behavior-attitude principle, we align our actions and beliefs by changing one or the other to maintain consistency.